My friend, Mark faithfully points out that what was only a scant two years ago clearly unthinkable, is now steadily nearing reality in Canadian law. (Hat tip to Canadian Blue Lemons.) Polygamy is on its way, the door flung open by the gay marriage debates, no matter how hard gay marriage supporters argue otherwise.
At some point, back in antiquity, these laws were passed for a reason. That reason was the belief that it is wrong and discriminatory to allow a man to have more than one wife, and a woman to have more than one husband. It was commonly known that it affected women and children negatively to be in that situation. This was once a point faithfully argued and fought for by the feminists of the day – feminists who are deafeningly silent on the issue today.
This is still known. What has changed is the belief that personal freedom trumps all other considerations. Now, even though we know something to be hurtful and to have victims, we are supposed to just let them do what they want. We do this despite the pain they cause themselves. We do this because they are already so hurt that they believe that their pain is right. It matters not if they are scarred emotionally, psychologically, physically, or if they were born with a disorder of mind or hormone that causes them to desire that which hurts.
We are told that it is “their choice” to hurt themselves, or put themselves in positions to be hurt or taken advantage of. “Who are we to judge?” is the clarion call of our nonintrusive, nonjudgemental society. It can’t help but remind me of what seems to me to be the origin of this whole mess – those crazy teenagers in love, back in the 50s, whose square parents “just didn’t understand” that the teens were truly in love, and that was all that mattered. It mattered not that the parents could see that both of them would struggle financially being unprepared to support each other. It did not matter that they hadn’t finished high school and were not prepared to get good jobs. It did not matter that while their bodies may have matured, their minds would take another few years to mature into responsible, thoughtful, wise contributors to society. It did not matter that their choice to marry (or in the 60s and 70s, simply have sex) may result in children who would pay an emotional price for the instability of their home or the transience of their “parents”. It did not matter that their parents had every reason to believe that they would fail and hurt each other, or their offspring, or both. No, it was the teens’ own feelings that trumped all concerns.
This disconnect from the lessons of the past it seems to me began then. It continued with endorsement of abortion (which we know has significant physical and psychological effects on women, to say nothing of the dead children). It continued with homosexual behaviour (which we know to have physical effects on men and women, as well as arguably psychological effects, to say nothing of the dangerous and unhealthy “trends” in the homosexual community), and now in most recent days it plays out in debates over group marriage, and even pedophilia (denying that what they do harms children), bestiality (denying what they do harms animals or themselves), euthanasia, and suicide.
We are now in a place where we are being told to not care for our fellow human beings. To care would be to judge. To care would be to view another’s choices in terms of their well-being. To care would be to intervene to preserve another’s innocence, another’s health, another’s emotional wholeness, another’s life.
But we are told that this care is in fact unloving. That to cheer them on in their own descent into personal sickness and death is the right thing to do – to support their “choice”. To celebrate their “diversity”. To accept and live peaceably with cultures that practice what would be in any other way abhorrent… but because they are “cultural” or “religious” in nature, they are then considered values-neutral and example of our utopia of tolerance and multiculturalism.
Oh… the world is a backwards place now. Love is hate. Concern is bigotry. Help is fascism.