We all get a random shuffle when we’re born; when someone does well with what they got, whatever that it, that is attractive.

Physical attractiveness isn’t just a universal “this color hair, this spacing of eyes”, etc. It is a very physical act, the stance, the breath, the calm. That’s my two cents.

I say its a very ridicilous thing to be so judgemental just cause a person is “ugly”.

Even “ugly” people can be interesting, once you get to know them.

The funny thing, though, is the fact that people who call other people ugly are often not that “attractive”, themselves.

BTW, Ive read that theres a certain name for this, its called cacophobia.

all I can say is WOW! I should go drink some water just so I can spit it out all over my desk and say “what the hell???”
There are no greater victims than the beautiful intelligent people of the world….

Parental thwarting of a child’s beauty so that the siblings will not be jealous is also common. In my teens, I babysat for a family who condoned the abuse of one of their daughters because they had it in their mind that her beauty made her a corrupt person in comparison to her siblings. It was awful to see, and I often wonder what became of sweet little Janelle. She is in my prayers.

I do admit that attractive women in some cases may land jobs or gain the “interest” of the boss because of their looks. However, this type of hiring does not have a happy outcome for the attractive person. It usually ends up that they are approached by the supervisor for sexual favours – Disgusting!! Beautiful women (and sometimes men) are treated like they are good for nothing except sex. It is sick, and no one should ever have to suffer like that.

Throughout my life I have had to make concessions for less attractive people and I am tired of it. I am not a bitch, or a slut, or stupid, or mean, or materialistic…. In fact these traits have little to do with appearance. I deserve a decent job, husband, family and social life as much as the next person. A wise man once told me that if someone is jealous or envious of you then you should have nothing to do with them – even if it is a relative. After acting on his advice my life has become much better with more real successes, un-thwarted by those who think I owe it to them to sacrifice something because they are less pretty, less healthy and/or less intelligent. It is also interesting to note that as I become older and less attractive the rude and hurtful treatment is diminishing. Most of the pain in my life can be traced directly back to jealous, fearful and/or perverted people. People enslaved by their envy should not be given responsibilities that affect the lives of others.

I admire beautiful women from modest families who become successful in non-sex professions – they have likely worked twice as hard as their less-attractive counterparts to prove that they are capable and competent. Most beautiful people have endured great mental, physical, spiritual and emotional sufferings and should be revered for their strength and resilience. I pray for those who are working in sex related trades because they feel there is no other option for them. Jealousy is the root of all evil.

My advice (as someone who used to be ”ugly” only because i believed myself to be that) :
Start doing excersise on a regular basis. Stop stuffing your face with junkfood. But the most important thing is to become more interested in other people and stop self obsessing about how others see you.

Hope that helps :)

Though I appreciate your keen insight into finding a rational solution to my dilemma, the sentiment I interpreted by your response was that the “geeks, “nerds” and “misfits” should all band together since no one else will accept them! We as a society can do better than rewarding the so called beautiful and stigmatizing the less than comely.

Though I appreciate your keen insight into finding a rational solution to my personal dilemma, what you are plainly advocating is an “ugly people alliance club.” The “nerds”, “geeks” and other so-called socially unacceptable “misfits” banding together to unite as one pathetic one. This ideology is not only perpetrating a negative stereotype but it emboldens the stigma that face those who are discriminated against based solely on physicality and image. What we need to espouse is a slogan that treats every individual fairly and equal. Why should the beautiful receive all the aplomb!

Go nerd. Seriously. I’m not saying this out of cruelty, such as “lower your standards”, but “nerds”, “geeks” and other social outcase will be more liekly to apprecaite your intelligence and talents. Being on the outside of the whole social thing themselves, they are also more likely to understand what you are going through. And best of all, in a while when looks fade, you’ll still have your smarts and personality, with the added bonus of a caring companion who sees more to you that your outward appearance.